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Sunday, March 22, 2009

Happy Nauryz!!!

Day 12
Nauryz Kuttuh Bolsyn !!! (a.k.a - Happy Nauryz!)

We just got back from a day at the Kokshetau Nauryz festival. I'm exhausted and chilled to the bone. (It is sooooo cold.) So we're just doing pictures and captions today. More cute baby pictures tomorrow.

Our translator Makhabbat collected us to go to the fair. She was accompanied by her daughter Arajaan (in light blue), and her nieces Edonna (in green) and Donna (in purple).
Here is the fair from a distance. I think all of Kokshetau was there! The fair was held on the streets surrounding Gorky Park, where ferris wheel is in operation all summer long.
Here is the ferris wheel. This is the first day of the year that it is in operation. Calvin was SOOO excited... as it was an ancient soviet thing, a little bit rusty, and with no safety features, his mom and dad were not quite so enthusiastic.A crowd gathers around a wresting match. Many of them are watching from the steps of the Tsum Store, the bazaar/grocery store where we do a lot of our shopping.Many different companies erected yurts on the street.

Here we are inside the yurt. The walls are lined with beautiful hanging carpets. The way the light filters into the yurt is really soft and beautiful.

Couple of yurt guys all dressed up. Don't ask me why he's carrying a pinwheel.

One of the street vendors selling whistles, mickey mouse kites, and pinwheels to excited kids. Calvin got a pinwheel. Having enjoyed more than "brunco vodkee" (a little vodka), these women laughed and danced to the music from the big stage. We never see the Kazakhs smile, let alone dance, so this was a sight to behold. Here are the performers that got the ladies on their feet.Calvin on Tim's shoulders walking by a stand of festival flags.
Here we are with a couple of the performers in traditional Russian attire. They were about to go on stage and just before this picture was taken they had been giggling while applying lipstick on each other. Here is Tim buying ride tickets for Calvin and Makhabbat's girls.

Tim also got cotton candy for the kids.

Yup. We took Calvin up in the ferris wheel. It didn't stop for new passengers, so you had to hop on as it took off.

Here is the view of the festival from the top. Here is a street scene from the top of the ferris wheel. Notice all the fur hats. Sorry PETA, but fur really is beautiful and practical in this weather

Traditional Kazakh tea steeping in pots. Kazakhs cuties enjoy another one of the rides at Gorky park.

Just like at home, the EMTs were on hand. This ambulance is very typical and a good reminder that you don't want to get sick in Kazakhstan. A really beautiful Kazakh woman with her sleeping boy. She wasn't quite as fashionable as most of the woman we see, but I thought that she had a beautiful look.

Donna and Edonna on a traditional Kazakh two person swing.I sort of fell in love with this little pumpkin. I photographed her mother above. The kids here look so cute all bundled up.Here she is with her brother. Aren't they darling? I wanted to get a shot of the whole family together, but with four kids under the age of five, mom didn't look to aminable. Calvin and Nana and burnt tasting cotton candy.


Here is another very Kazakhstan snap. Smartly dressed women and chainsmoking men in black caps. Here's another very typical street scene. More black cap men. This was our last ride of the day. I swear it was getting colder by the moment, but Calvin loved it. Mom walked home after Tim, Cal, and I left. On her way she saw these kids playing on the war memorial and snapped a picture.


When the boys realized that mom had taken their picture they called after her and all came running to have their picture taken again. Then they all introduced themselves in broken english. When mom told them that she was from America, they pointed to themselves and said "Kazakhstan!" and started cheering. Very cute. Kazakhstan loves mom.

Paka.

Becca

Saturday, March 21, 2009

A note to PAPs

(Part 2)
Those of us caught up in the wild world of international adoption know that PAP stands for Perspective Adoptive Parents. Although I am almost able to shed that first unwanted "P," I have been a PAP for over a year now. In that time I have scowered hundreds of adoption blogs. They have ranged from the sappy angels-and-puppy sort to downright raucus narratives of people far cooler that I could ever hope to be. One thing was the same, however, in every blog I purused... the feeling of being an outsider, some sort of strange voyar peeping into the windows of other people's lives. I was desperate for images of the streets I might walk down, the shops I might see, and of course the children that might be mine, so I looked... but I never felt welcomed.
So for my adoption journey, I want all of those PAPs lurking in the wings to know that they are very welcome here. Perhaps I am being presumptuious in thinking that anyone might be checking in on us, but if you are out there... I'm glad you've stopped by. My story will be yours, someday. I have checked and double checked my apostilles. I have wished that strangers would ask me how many children I have. I have searched the internet for answers to questions that can't be answered (like: where is my baby!). In short, I have been where you are. I get it.
So, if you are out there, feel free to join in. If you have questions that I might be able to answer, leave a comment. I promise I will write back. If you are heading to Kokshetau any time soon and need more specifics (that's you, Karen in Andover, Maine), leave me your e-mail address and I'll get in touch with you off the public loop.
Somehow, I found my way to the other side of the world and to the baby that has already captured a piece of my heart. If you are hoping to get here someday too, let me know. I'd love to hear your story.
Paka,
Becca

Our Cultural Education Continues

Day 11

Garrett was absolutely darling today: wide awake and chattering like we've never heard him do. We were in the music room today. It was still decorated from yesterday' Nauryz performance and it's lined with mirrors. The combination was very exciting for our little bug. He loved the balloons and once he caught a glimpse of himself in the mirror, he couldn't get enough. He kept smiling at himself in the mirror and then shrieking with joy. Those happy guggles just melted me. He's been so quiet until now. We have hardly hear a peep, but I think he is starting to open up a little. He even did a little "ba-ba-ba-ba" talking. Pretty advanced stuff. He's so smart.
Since the babyhouse is closed tomorrow for Nauryz, we had to hug and kiss him enough for two days. Tomorrow will be the first day since arriving in Kokshetau that we haven't seen our little bug. I'm going to go into withdraw.

(I don't know about this hat, ma)
I've mentioned before that after our visit Garrett goes down for his nap. We got in trouble yesterday for letting him fall asleep at the end of our visit. I guess that his catnap with us refreshed him so much that he didn't take his afternoon nap, opting instead to soliloquize and keeping all of his roommates from their slumber. After promising never to let him sleep on our watch again and then making good on this promise by returning him awake, the caregiver rewarded us by letting me take a picture of him getting swaddled for his nap.
Boy-oh-boy are they good swaddlers. I don't think that Houdini could get out of that wrap. Garrett looks like a catapiller in a coccoon! After wrapping him tight, the caregiver held him up like some sort of prize cabbage. She was obviously very proud that her efforts had so effectively foiled any attempt by Garrett to use his limbs. Garrett is so used to it, however, that I'm pretty sure that I'm going to have to swaddle him like this to get him to sleep at home. I'm going to have to learn baby-blanket-oragami.
I took advantage of the permission to take picture and snapped a couple more pictures of the nursery and playroom where Garrett lives when we aren't with him. It is warm and bright, and like the rest of the babyhouse, spotlessly clean. It smells like warm wood, probably a pleasant side effect of the pine floors being heated by the sun through those big windows. It's really pretty nice. Just an interesting side note, the TV is always tuned to music videos, like the Kazakh equivilent of MTV2.

After our visit, Makhabbat informed us that she would be back later to take us to a ballet performance at the local concert hall... ALL of us. For those of you who thought that my little Calvin couldn't sit still and keep quiet for an hour long demonstration of traditional Kazakh dance... earlier today, I would have agreed. Once again, however, Calvin proved us wrong! Sitting right next to Makhabbat, with the mayor of Kokshetau only three rows behind us, Calvin endured the performance with stoaic fortitude. Tim, however, only barely survived. The feathered hats were almost too much for him!

Paka,
Becca

Friday, March 20, 2009

The Nauryz Play!

Day 8

Happy New Year from Kazakhstan!

Today Tim, Mom, Cal, and I got to attend the children's recital at the babyhouse in honor of the new year celebration of Nauryz! Nauryz is technically on March 22, but they were celebrating early. The children performing were the oldest at the babyhouse... the 3-year-old group. At age four the little ones get booted up to an older children's orphanage in nearby Akkol.

As excited as we were, Tim and I were ridiculously nervous about this expedition because there has been no secret about how heavily we are being analyzed while at the babyhouse. Our every move is the subject of meaningful glances and rapid fire russian between passing caregivers, none of which is translated. Adding a rambuncious 3-year-old to the "are they worthy of parenting our baby" equation made us very concerned about our reputation.


We shouldn't have worried. Calvin was as good as gold. He smiled and said "Dobraya Ootra" to the various caregivers and even the stern looking babyhouse director(who sat down next to us! Eeek). Then Calvin sat on Tim's lap for the entire half hour production and didn't make a peep. What a good boy! With a happy baby on my lap and a well behaved 3-year-old on Tim's, I was positively beaming with pride by the end of the show.

Did I mention that the show was darling!!! Oh my god are these little one's cute. Mom and I agreed that we would have smuggled a couple of them out in our suitcases if we could. They were all dressed in traditional Kazakh attire and the entire production was accompanied by a caregiver on the accordian. They started the performance by filing into the music room holding fake flowers. They sang a song and waved their flowers in unison. The rest of the performance was made up of little dances and songs and recitations. The boys show off a swinging stick dance. Two cutie pies sing a song. The one on the left is named Sasha and mom and I agree that he was the sweetest! If anyone out there is thinking of adopting a toddler, come get Sasha!!! Every child deserves a good home, but I can tell that Sasha would become the light of your life! All the little ones jam along with the accordian. The chubby fellow second from the right was named Ruslan (too) and he was a menace his instrument. He wacked the little guy with the tamborine right in the head! The children perform a dance in pairs. In this "scene" they are pretending to be mad at each other. Note the crossed arms and wagging fingers. Next they turned around and hugged. The two girls perform a very dance where they pretend to brush their long flowing hair. Funny, really, because they have the same haircuts as the boys. The boys show their strength with a game of tug of war. All of the kids got to do it. It always ended with someone falling down.
This was my favorite part of their performance: the demonstation of the children's version of the traditional Nauryz sport competition. I've heard that on Nauryz, Kazakh men and women show their prowess on horeseback by competing in complicated races. In one such race, a man on horseback takes off after a woman on horseback in an attempt to catch her and kiss her. The kids at the babyhouse did the same thing on hobby horse, galloping around the music room in pairs and then nearly knocking each other over in clumsy embraces. Soooo cute.
At the end of the performance the babyhouse director gave a short speech, presumably praising the kiddos for their fine efforts. Then the caregivers passed around a plate of traditional fried dough and we were excused so that the children could revel in their success with a slightly larger snack of fried dough, tea, and currants. They all seemed very pleased with themselves and they should have been. I just wanted to scoop them all up in a big hug!
Instead, I hugged my two boys... at the same time. A rare treat! For the remaining half hour, Nana got to hold Garrett, Calvin got to run amok in the playroom, and Tim and I got to breath a sigh of relief that everything had gone so well. What a good day.

Paka.

Becca

Thursday, March 19, 2009

Barfy McPukeypants

Day 7
Here is the math equation of the day:

A baby with a full stomach of watery mashed potatoes and meatballs
+
teething
+
excited playtime with mommy and daddy
x
mommy's only clean shirt
=
?

The answer, of course, is today's subject... Barfy McPukeypants. Our sweet baby threw up on me every chance he got today. It was sort of like an SNL comedy sketch! We arrived just after his lunch time and returned him with a completely empty stomach. If he wasn't absolutely darling and practically perfect in every way it would have been pretty gross. But such is the extent of motherly love that even when wearing a sweater newly soaked in vomit, all I could do was coo "ohhh, poor little love, but we feel better now, don't we."

O.K., enough barf-talk, I don't want to turn you all off. Let me tell you, instead, about the oily bile-smelling cups of lukewarm fermented mares-milk tea we were forced to drink. Just the thought is enough to stir my gag reflex and send a shiver up my spine. It has been a gross day!

Here's how it went down. After the whole bundling the cute baby for the unseen blizzard routine, our interpreter, Makhabbat, ushered us into a new room at the babyhouse. It was the foyer attached to one of the older children group's sleeping quarters. Brightly colored cloth streamers hung from the ceiling in loose loops. A poster on the wall declared "Happy New Year!" Indeed, everywhere you looked were decorations for tomorrow's big holiday. Makhabbat told me that this group had won the babyhouse prize for best decorations and the caretakers were having a small feast to celebrate. We were truly honored to join in their party. A group of six of them were seated around a low circular coffee table that dominated the room. The table was covered with a white cloth, small dishes of food, and mismatched cups of tea.
(Here is the feast: plates of apple and orange slices, jelly roll cake slices, jam filled cookies, dried fruits, foil wrapped candies, cheese curd, slices of lard, fried bread rolls, fermented mare's milk tea)
They scooted over on the couch and invited us to sit with them. They were all talking and laughing, and in this jovial condition they seemed like entirely different women from those we usually encounter storming through the narrow corridors. It was a wonderful sight. Makhabbat sat too and told us to help ourselves. She gave us each a small roll of fried dough and pushed two china cups of watery-looking broth towards us. The dough was really tasty, but the broth looked sinister. It was almost clear, with a slightly milky hue. At the top of each brimming cup was a thin layer of oil. Small curds of cheesy whey clung to the sides. With all expectant eyes upon us we were induced to drink. We did so in the animated manner of a mother at a child's lemonade stand, when the mother knows full well that the child used a grubby fist to stir the lemonade. It was horrifying! Tim later ranked the experience in the top five of the worst things he has ever tasted. Hor-ri-fy-ing. Ugg.

(Nastarovia!)

The party got better after that, and honestly, we were thrilled to be included. If gagging on a cup of fermented horse milk tea is all that is required of us to show the caregivers how much we appreciate their work, I'm happy to do it. Makhabbat showed us the various bits of Kazakh culture strewn around the room, including the Kazakh version of the Christmas stocking. It's a big apron looking thing to which a hostess attaches lots of little gifts. Then, during the new year's celebration, the hostess doles the gifts out to various guests. Several of the caregivers also slipped away and put on tradional Kazakh jackets, head scarves, and hats. The jackets were sleeveless, beautifully bright, and intricated embroidered with gold thread. One of the women put on the traditional men's costume, much to the amusement of the other caregivers. She and a friend then pretended to be "deyadooshka e babooshka" (grandpa and grandma), linking arms and giggling. Tim and I nibbled on cookies and apple slices. Before long all of the caregivers had to get back to work, so we retreated back to the activity room, where Garrett proceeded to alternate between looking darling and puking on me. Ahh the joys of motherhood.







Love you all. Paka!
Becca